Excerpt from In Between Rays of Sunshine: A How to Guide for Surviving Abuse by Rebecca Nolan

Part III

Truths in Life

There are certain Truths in life. When accepted, they diminish the complications that we have a tendency to put on things in our relationships, our situations, in the issues that we face and the decisions that we make.

1.     You are a being of Light; a spark of the divine. It doesn’t matter what your religious beliefs are or if you don’t have spiritual beliefs. This Truth connects us to all living things in the Universe. Therefore, you are never truly alone.

2.     Law of Attraction: negativity attracts negativity and positive energy attracts more positive energy. Hatred begets hatred therefore only love conquers evil.

3.     The world is not fair. Good things happen to and for all people and bad things happen to and for all people. It is up to the individual to determine their character in the way that they respond to both the good and the bad. *Don’t wait for Karma to save you from the A partner. *Karma may or may not come in your lifetime.

4.     The only thing within your control is You. You control your thoughts and intentions, your emotions, your words and actions. The decision in the level of control you exhibit over these areas determines how bright your Light is. *Don’t get into power struggles; it’s futile to attempt to control another.

5.     The only one who has control over you is You. Other people may manipulate or persuade you using an array of methods, but the ultimate decision to act or not to act is yours. *This workbook is dedicated to those who are under an illusion of control by the A partner.

6.     There is a fine line between being a victim and becoming a perpetrator. The choice is yours and yours alone on how to respond to the cruelty and harshness in the world with passivity, assertiveness or aggression. *Don’t contribute to abuse in the world with retaliations of aggression.

7.     Every decision made is rooted in either love or fear. Every action can be broken down to being love based or fear based. Love is joy and pleasure; fear is pain and suffering.

8.     You already possess everything you need to live this life the way you were meant to. Therefore, everything you want you can have by doing two things: shifting your perception or going after what you want.